I couldn’t stand him. He was too loud; he was rambunctious and he swore too much. I stepped onto the boat and put my fishing rods in the overhead holder. We arrived at the fishing spot and over my left shoulder, there he was, fishing right next to me. I thought, oh no, not HIM! There goes the fun for this fishing trip.
The day was interesting; he caught the most fish on the boat; he was the class clown; he took me by the hand and taught me tricks for catching King Fish; he was gracious and in earnest. A retired business executive, he finds fishing to be his release, where he can enjoy himself without inhibitions. I like him.
QUESTIONS:
Are you, like me, quick to judge on first impression? If so, will you learn the lesson I learned? Give the undesirables second and third chances to prove you wrong. Virtually all humans are redeemable. When, and only when, you see the fruit of their lives, then you can make a somewhat objective judgment of who they are.
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I am quick to judge on first impression as I feel that is your true personality. However, I have learned that those expressions are just on the surface, getting to know a person for who they are, sheds light on who they are. Having conversions or getting to know a person helps you to understand why they may act the way they do. These behaviors can be the effect of many traumatic experiences.
Most times I am guilty of judging a book by its cover. I still do, but I’m learning to not pass judgements quickly. To help with this learning, I would try to put myself in the other person’s shoes to see how they would feel being accused without no reason. It’s hard to let go of this bad habit but I do believe with practice I can get rid of it.
I believe it is human nature to judge people off on first impressions without fully knowing them or the situation that they may be going through. Many people put up a mask or a front to either hide who they are or just to be like everyone in a group to fit in and everyone just follows the general status quo but they are those who are themselves wherever they are and no matter the time. As the saying says never judge a book by its cover I don’t do it often but I should try to get to know a person before I make any judgments on who they are as a person because sometimes you may think someone is very nice and friendly but once you know them you realize how different they are and they are some people who seem unpleasant but once you know them they are the nicest person in the world.
Being quick to judge was one of my weaknesses. I typically judge the book by its cover, and no matter what that person did, they could not have access to me. After doing psychology courses where I learnt the deeper meanings and causes to some people’s actions, I learnt to give people more grace; more time to show that they are more than my first impression of them.
I used to judge persons based on first impressions but I’ve learnt that you must not judge someone until you get to know them for yourself. Yes red flags might be there but find out who they are before you are quick to judge.
I usually dont pass too much judgement on people when i first meet them especially without having a conversation with them beforehand. While they say first impressions last I try to keep in mind that everyone has good and bad days. Someones actions on a given day do not always reflect their true character or intentions
I used to be quick to judge based on first impression, but i find that most persons first impression is a defense mechanism or not their personality and when you actually get to know someone your though changes.
I try not to judge others on first impressions, rather I observe how a person acts overtime before coming to a vast conclusion. Of course people may give off a first impression that is not the entirety of who they are, but sometimes what you see at first may be exactly who they are.
It’s understandable to sometimes make quick judgments based on first impressions, as we’re often influenced by initial observations and biases. However, I recognize the importance of giving people second and even third chances to reveal their true character. This story serves as a reminder that initial perceptions can be misleading, and individuals can surprise us with their depth, kindness, and abilities when given the opportunity. I’m committed to being more open-minded and giving others the chance to demonstrate who they truly are before forming a final judgment.